How to Lead a Group

Leading a group, when you're ready, is a great way of helping other people and making disciples.

Guidelines follow.

First, establish rules for the group.

Examples:

• Whatever is said in the group, stays in the group.
• Treat each other with respect.
• Do not talk when someone else is sharing unless the person asks for advice.
• Exception: The leader is exempt since he/she needs to be able to respond to any issues that may arise (eg. suicidal thoughts).

Second: enforce group rules.

Examples:

• If someone, contrary to group rules, interrupts when another person is sharing, confront the person immediately. Repeat the person's name, somewhat elevating the tone of your voice, until the person stops talking.
• Example: "JOHN, JOHN, JOHN! Remember the group rules. We don't talk when others are sharing."
• Don't tolerate other inappropriate behavior. Start by talking with an offender privately.
• Example: While I was leading a group, I got a complaint from a woman about another group member, a man. He walked up to her and gave her a hug. I pulled the man aside and said: "This is how things work. If a woman wants to give you a hug, you can give her a hug. Otherwise, we do not touch them." I had no further problems with the man.

Don't allow anyone to continue in the group who continues to disregard the rules you set for the group.

Related article: How to Counsel Others.

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