"The entrance of thy words giveth light (Psalm 119:130)."
Self-Talk
Self-talk is how you talk to yourself, about yourself and about the circumstances of your life.
We all talk to ourselves. This can either be positive and constructive—or very damaging.
In order to benefit from this article, it is necessary to first get saved.
Your words have power—either for good or for evil.
Two examples follow.
Example 1:
- "I can't handle this!" Result: anxiety.
- "I can handle this." Result: more peace.
Example 2:
- "I'm defined by what he says about me." Result: instability.
- "I accept myself." Result: stability.
Other examples of negative self-talk:
- "This is never going to change."
- "I always mess up."
- "God doesn't love you."
- "You're not good enough."
- "I'm no good."
- "That happened because of me."
- "My parents don't love me."
- "I hate my life."
- "I'm sick and tired of this."
- "I hate my job"
- "I'm weak."
- "Everybody else has it good."
- "This is terrible."
Many of your negative thoughts originate with a demon, even if they occur in the first person.
Your thinking must be straightened out FIRST in order for your life to be straightened out.
How you talk to yourself drastically affects your mood.
Self-talk and self-control are very much related.
Your attitude toward yourself is very important.
What you say to yourself is much more important than whatever anybody else says about you.
What you think about yourself is much more important than what anybody else thinks about you. This is a choice.
I want to keep this as simple as possible. So you'll get it and apply it as quickly as possible.
Keep your thoughts positive and constructive, rational and comforting. Correct negative thoughts.
Talk to yourself like you'd like a good friend to counsel you. Or how you would encourage a child you love.
Suggestions follow.
Adopt a healthy, personal perspective:
- God loves me.
- I love me.
- I accept myself.
- I don't care what he (she) thinks.
- I don't expect myself to be perfect.
- I forgive myself.
Correct self-critical thoughts:
- I am not (fill in blank).
- Or, say the opposite.
Correct negative thoughts, in general:
- Say the opposite.
- Encourage yourself.
- Preferably, recite Scripture.
Forgive others:
- I choose to forgive him.
- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." {Philippians 4:13 NKJV}
Trust in the power of the Holy Spirit to enable you to forgive. Sometimes you can't forgive in your own strength.
Comfort yourself:
- It's no big deal.
- I can handle this.
- It's OK.
Recite Scripture as you think:
- "Be anxious for nothing . . ." {Philippians 4:6 NASB}
- "Trust in Him at all times . . ." {Psalm 62:8 NASB}
- " . . . do not worry . . . " {Matthew 6:25 NIV}
- ". . . whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right . . . think about these things." {Philippians 4:8 NASB}
- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." {Philippians 4:13 NKJV}
Recite Scripture, out loud, so the demon can hear. And apply the Scripture to your life.
Use affirmations based on Scripture.
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might." {Ephesians 6:10 NASB}
Example: I am 'strong in the Lord.'
You can choose to be 'strong in the Lord' even if you have a history of being 'weak in the flesh.'
Pay attention to what you're saying to yourself. Adjust your thinking. Adjust your self-talk.
Keep trying.
Do this and you will make progress.
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